Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel | TED

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  • Smartest councilor on the planet.

    @BBSAXX 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Lady Speaker Person you should actually read the Bible for the answers to your own questions.

    @sheriwilliams8942 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • That bible phrase does not actually apply to marriage and adultery to humans but to you not carrying out the creators work which is to continue that creative work with the abilities given to you. Religion has destroyed society with marriage which is a contract either the gov. and not each other. Contracts with each other need to revisited and revised regularly and ended when one of you breaks it. Not cheating. Leave the relationship. Holding people hostage in a relationship is destructive. Fitting square pegs in a round hole needs to end. Enjoy each others presence while you are fortunate to be in it or not. Not have control over another persons life and move on when you both no longer want that. Why force yourself into martyrdom. Life is so short. Respect each other enough to do that. Ownership of another person is wrong. A relationship is a separate entity that you both contribute to and when that contribution is not happening you must change that situation. Life is too short to martyr yourselves in the wrong relationship. Passion does not have a finite shelf life. If you desire your partner it never dies. It’s people getting involved with the wrong people and for the wrong reasons all the time that have sexually deprived relationships and most women are not sexually in touch with themselves and get married to the wrong people. Trying to constantly justify living a compromised life is a total waste of it.

    @habanero6332 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Why is this in his playlist 😂😂

    @redvixo 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • I'm way late hearing this, but I have to say that I've never heard anyone speak so intelligently about this topic. Ever.

    @DDoutel 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • An absolutely captivating presentation with a compelling narrative!

    @patrickben 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • 🥰

    @rudraksha8095 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • 'The victim of the affair, is not always the victim of the marriage.' Wow. That is an incredible truth.

    @chriscullen2586 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • So, before I watched this talk, I was very much of the opinion that cheating instantly means ending the relationship. This talk has made me totally rethink my stance on that (I've listened to Esther's podcasts for years and she is a legend in my book). The lines that hit me hardest were the ones about starting a new relationship after the old one has died due to the affair💔, and asking the partner if they want to start a new one, as well as asking what did they get out of it that was missing from our relationship. There is always a reason someone strays. But still though, I do think the path to recovery is hard for the "victim" now that the trust is broken.

    @Thescotandthegobbyshite 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • I was with a cheater. She cheated years ago and I thought it was a mistake. I believed her. It took several years but eventually I rebuilt trust. And whenever she’d hear, “once a cheater, always a cheater” she’d get so upset and passionately declare that the rule doesn’t apply to her. About 18 months ago after we were together for 20 years and had 1 child together I found out she was cheating again. The rule held true in this case. We’re now divorced, we share custody 50/50, and she’s living with the HS boyfriend that she cheated with. She’s learning that the grass isn’t greener. Our son says that his mom destroyed our family and that he hates her but I have him in therapy trying to repair the damage. She and her boyfriend fight often. He’s cheap. He does stupid things like pushing washing machines through walls. He didn’t provide the lifestyle he promised. She’s angry and miserable. They’ve only lived together for 8 months and she’s already left him behind to go on 2 girls trips.

    I really tried hard to make it work. I wasn’t perfect but I also was never abusive, not a drunk, never cheated, worked hard, I’m very generous, I listen intently, and I’ve been incredibly supportive. I admit I worked a lot but that was only to provide us with the best lifestyle possible. I’ve spent the last 17 months in therapy processing this, understanding what happened, growing, and working on healing me and my son. I now understand what happened and I’ve forgiven her. I told her I forgave her and I told her I wish her the best. She hasn’t reciprocated those feelings. But now I know that her cheating isn’t a reflection on me. It’s her problem. And I know that I genuinely loved her. Unfortunately she’s not capable of that kind of love.

    @TimDwg 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • The bible says nothing about cheaitng

    @DylanDkoh 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Excellent lecture. Very thought provoking.

    @SilatShooter 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • It is sad that people choose to cheat.

    @ronmc1677 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • "A death by a thousands cuts"

    @estebanmartinez667 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • I was cheated on by my husband many many years ago. I used to think it was cause of something I did, that I wasn't good enough. Even though I said I forgave him, I made it a point to still throw shade about other women any chance I got.. so I hadn't truly forgiven him otherwise I wouldn't keep bringing that up. We wanted to do what was right for our son. We divorced 13 years ago and he finally said to me "I never cheated to hurt you, it was never you… it was me trying to feel anything but the pain I carried".. he did two tours in Iraq while we were married and he was never the same. Would I have believed him had he said this to me then…? No.. why do I believe him now? Cause I was the other woman at one point as well and it weirdly opened my eyes. My former affair partner, who I've known for over 20 years was similar. At the end of the day it's usually never about the person they are cheating on, it's about them themselves. Something u fulfilled within them, but they want to blame the other. It's the misery they feel within them. At the end of the day, they will more than likely not leave their partner no matter how unhappy they are. Whether it be for kids… for fear of failure… to be judged, etc… it's actually quite sad cause even my ex husband is now staying in his current marriage out of obligation. Out of fear of being twice divorced. I'm grateful I've been in both positions looking back now. Never would I have thought I'd be in those positions but they helped me understand… it's also made me stronger.

    @nicolemoreland1457 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • She is the best!

    @user-so5ix3cp6c 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Myhusband of 23 years has been having an emotional affair since 7 years…he promises to break it off only to go back to her😢😢😢😢

    @deepa0706 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Wishing most and more ❤

    @iamankitrathi 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • My wife had an affair after 18 years and I'll tell you it damn near destroyed me. I am blessed that my following statement is the truth but the affair was by far the worst pain I've ever felt. Just don't do it. For any reason.

    @bradconfer7065 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Happy people don't cheat, sick people cheat.

    @Mrlive680 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • "This is a talk for anyone who has ever loved…"

    @user-uz3sp5zk7j 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Just a long video saying basically how people are selfish, self-serving, and don't mind walking all over their spouse because it's all about them. Typical sickness of the modern world.

    @defaultgraycat 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Anybody in 2023??? ✌🏻

    @meikestunkel9959 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • She is absolutely brilliant. Agree with everything she said 💯

    @kevinwilkins7851 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • ❤❤❤❤❤

    @hmwns3397 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • What a sweeping generalization. This chanel would be better called the socialist channel.

    @libertycoffeehouse3944 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • The harsh reality is its over no such thing as a new relationship/ marriage once the trust is broken there is no repairing it unless you develop amnesia , the victim dies alittle everyday you stay with the cheater

    @user-xo4om8qv6m 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Another woman enabling women cheating….American women have no accountability, responsibility, and never face any consequences. Women like this speaker always give cheating women a free pass

    @danharms4237 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Cheating is a self explanatory term, and the person take responsibility and be the different self and the other has the right to decide to stay or leave

    @pa2359 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder
  • Thank you so much for your speech. This gave me a lot of strength and a better perspective.

    @andreisoloviev7011 14 de janeiro de 2024 11:12 Responder

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